What about advice for Dads?

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I'm a mum, I blog about motherhood and my experiences as a mother to two girls. I'm surrounded by other mums in both my home and work life. We're united! We're Together in Mamahood. But what about Dads? There isn't a great deal of advice for dads out there.

I thought it may be because I'm not part of the demographic, but upon researching I've discovered dads don't get the same representation mums get... And that's where Daddilife comes in, because Dads matter too.

Who are Daddilife?

Daddilife is a parenting website specifically aimed at dads. It was set up four years ago by Han-Son Lee as upon entering fatherhood he realised there wasn't a great deal of resources out there for dads. Daddilife is packed full of advice for dads ranging from things to do with your kids, meal prep ideas and guides for dads at work. There's even a section for dad jokes, something both my dad and husband would go wild for!

In 2021 Daddilife wrote their first ever big book!

'You're going to be a dad' gives advice for dads on the whole pregnancy journey and the first twelve months of life with their babies.

Advice for dads, the book from Daddilife.

'You're going to be a dad' is the new dads guide to pregnancy and the first year of fatherhood. The book provides reassurance and practical advice needed for first time fathers. It addresses real life challenges fathers go through and provides answers for every step of the way.

What you can expect from the book.

Daddiflie's book begins by documenting the three trimesters of pregnancy. Each trimester is brilliantly broken down into month by month chapters which then break down into weekly snippets. Each week is a couple of pages long meaning it's really easy to dip in and catch up with your baby's development week by week. Pregnancy takes up a big chunk of the book and discusses things such as hearing the babys heartbeat, to reaching viability to preparing for birth. All from a dads perspective.

Closing the book is a section on the first year of fatherhood. Again this is broken down really easily in three month sections. You will learn about your baby's different reflexes to teething to weaning. All from a dads perspective.

The book includes in depth interviews of more than 50 fathers from numerous different backgrounds. This includes dads of multiples, dads who've gone through IVF and dads who didn't bond straight away just to name a few. There's a huge representation in this book which I think is amazing.

It's the book written by dads, for dads!

How the book can help new fathers & fathers to be.

• It can help build stronger relationships. 'You're going to be a dad' not only teaches fathers how to be kind to themselves, it advises the best way to support partners. By doing so you can remain as one team throughout this life changing experience.
• You can learn from a community of fathers. Instead of winging it and going off of your own perspective, this book provides a whole community of fathers for you to lean on. There's a diverse range of fathers in this book, it's almost certain there'll be someone you can relate to.
• You're supplied with checklists and goals. Get ready for upcoming appointments with this book. It carries all he information you need with regards to midwife appointments, baby milestones and diet changes.

Where you can find the book.

The book is currently available on Amazon, retailing at £11.99.

Let's speak to the Dads...

Obviously being a mum I have no experience being a father. That's a given. So I thought I'd ask the people who know best. I spoke to a couple of fathers asking if they felt there was enough advice for dads readily available and how the perceptions of advice for dads differed to that of mums.

Damion | The Northern Dad.

I don’t think there are enough resources readily available for Dads. Some of the resources that are available are just covered over “mum resources”. Nothing specific targeted toward dads. I’m a member of the #ukdadbloggers and pretty much 100% of that group would all agree. A lot of “blogging opportunities are target towards “mums”, “new mums” or “expecting mums”. Overall there is little resources or support for new, single or same sex couple dads. It is slowly getting there and I think it’s partly to do with more dads shouting about it and the increase of dad bloggers. A lot more could be done though. My kids are 18,12 and 5 now, so I’m kind of “experienced” but there are many many things I wish I’d known. Simple things like what to expect as a dad at child birth, what to expect going forward etc.

Thomas | The Doubting Thomas.

If I look at my own personal stats when it comes to blog posts I've written about parenting tips and my own experiences, the responses and engagement are dominated by women. The majority of parenting, lifestyle and bloggers online generally offering advice seem to be women and Mums; I think it's just perceived to be more of a female hobby (rightly or wrongly). Therefore it's only natural that the majority of resources online are going to be catered towards Mums as that's the majority target audience. If you search online for resources for Dads, you're going to find more than what you might have done in the past. I'm pleased to see resources for Dads are increasing, but Dads are always going to be playing catch up in that respect!

Finding advice for dads.

Finding advice for dads has proven pretty difficult. I've spoken to my husband in length about the topic as from our first pregnancy he noticed a huge divide in gender perceptions.

Motherhood is hard, but fatherhood is also hard, even more so if the tools to help aren't readily available. Thankfully that's where Daddilife come in to help the life changing transition that little bit easier.

What do you think to the mother / father divide? Is it something you've thought of before? Would Daddilife help you?