A parenting & lifestyle blog written by Claire Chircop.

5 THINGS I'VE LEARNT DURING LOCKDOWN AS A PARENT.

Day 532 in lockdown & I'm feeling all kinds of reflective about my time spent in isolation, focusing especially on what I've learnt about myself as a parent.

I've definitely felt the rollercoaster of emotions of being a parent during lockdown, but I finally feel like I'm at a place where the positives outweigh the negatives.

Claire wearing pink crop top.

Lockdown itself and the reasons behind being in isolation are unnerving; For me it's the fear of the unknown as I still feel like there's so much about coronavirus that we just don't know about yet & I find it all really alarming. Dan & I are both on furlough with neither of us 100% sure we'll have jobs to go back to once this is all over and done with - Whenever that may be. I think it's naive to believe that once lockdown ends we're all going to go back to normal, back to our usual jobs, living our regular lives - I'm convinced Covid isn't going to work like that.

That being said, I do feel positive (on a whole) about the situation we're in. We've got so much more family time now; It's time we'd never make the most of & time we'll probably never get again, so I'm 100% in the mindset of making the most of the situation we're in. We're enjoying seeing our daughter grow, especially as she's changing so much at the moment; I'm just so grateful we get to witness it all first hand, instead of from a WhatsApp message from our childminder.

I presume the vast majority of us are feeling reflective right now, whether that be with your employment, dreams or aspirations or in my case what I've learnt about myself as a parent. We may not all the in the same boat, but we're sure as hell in the same storm & I'd like to think my reflections as a parent can help others, no matter what their reflections are right now.

Mother and daughter looking at each other.

5 things I've learnt during lockdown as a parent.

1. Kids are resilient, but so are you.
Resilience is the ability to bounce back from stress, challenges or trauma, it's something which children are renowned for having, but I bet if you look a little closer to home, you're pretty darn resilient too.  Look at how we're pulling together & how we're supporting one another in our communities, we're actually amazing & we need to celebrate it.
I'm big on quotes over on my Pinterest and the saying 'you've got through 100% of the bad days you've had' has definitely gotten me through. Being a parent you have to be resilient & pull yourself through the sometimes really awful days, so I've been applying that mindset to my lockdown life & it's 100% worked for me.

2. It's okay to miss the 'old me'.
Gosh the days are long aren't they! Pre-lockdown I was so used to having my parenting day split up by going to work, but these days I haven't got a choice but to be a parent 100% of the time. And I mean this in the best way possible, but I really enjoyed my time 'being me' at work, the me who wasn't a mum, the me who could put herself first for a few hours out of the day.
I miss the old me & at the beginning of lockdown I used to beat myself up over feeling the way I did, but now I've come to realise that it's totally okay & in no way reflects the way I feel about my daughter.

3. You don't have to do it all.
I think the biggest issue for me when lockdown was first introduced & furlough life began was that as a parent  I felt like I had to do it all. This added weight on my shoulders however came as absolutely no surprise to me, as I'm 100% that mama that rushes around like a crazy person during nap time trying to get 101 different jobs done... Why would lockdown be any different?
I've definitely learnt to chill a bit more over the last couple of weeks and instead of feeling like I need to be preparing the next activity to keep my toddler occupied during lockdown, I'm putting myself first. These days I take myself outside, leaving my phone indoors meaning I can fully enjoy a coffee in the back garden, listening to absolute nothingness around me... And it's bliss, I 100% recommend you try it.

4. You'll have good days & bad days.
Understanding that you'll have good days and bad days through lockdown is so important. I think it's imperative when you are having a bad day to know that it is just one day, and that tomorrow could and probably will be totally different. The bad days you have shape you, and I 100% believe you learn from them & become better for having them, even though it really doesn't feel like it at the time.
I used this mindset when I was in labour; Yes, it was hard, yes it was painful, but it was just one day (almost two) out of all of the days I'll ever have & I 100% put my positive birth story down to this mindset.

5. Giggles get you through.
Oh Lord, the giggles can get you through anything! And I don't just mean the laughs from my daughter, although these are the absolute best laughs, I mean all forms of chuckles...
I've howled over FaceTime with friends reminiscing on the days of underage drinking and telling our parents we were staying at each others house when really we were staying at our latest squeeze's. I've been silly with my husband & acted life goofs embracing each others weirdness. It's been brilliant, and it's so nice to let loose and forget responsibilities and pressures of day to day life!

6 month old girl sitting in garden chair.

Who knows how much longer we'll be in lockdown for? All I know is that I'm going to spend the rest of my time with a positive mindset & enjoy the extra time we have as a family together. I'm blooming in my own way & doing my own thing in my own little bubble - I hope you guys are too!

How are you feeling about lockdown? Have your feelings changed over the previous six weeks?

Claire.X


5 things I've learnt during lockdown as a parent. Pinterest graphic.

4 comments on "5 THINGS I'VE LEARNT DURING LOCKDOWN AS A PARENT."
  1. This is such a beautifully worded post, thank you for sharing.

    I'm so pleased you're managing to keep positive in light of our circumstances, I think that's so important right now.

    Kate | thelittlecrunch.co.uk

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  2. You have a very cute & beautiful kid!

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  3. Well done... I'm broody now after seeing that beautiful photo! <3 I'm not a parent myself but I can't imagine how hard this time has been for you. Lockdown is challenging as it is so I really do admire how parents are dealing with it all right now xxx

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

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  4. Love this Claire. All oh so true.
    Definitely knowing that it's ok to be ok and also not be ok is a good one. Were all going through the same thing. granted our situations and environments may be different, but there's definitely no right and wrong way to be getting through it. It's a case of taking each day as it comes. I'm a serial organiser and planner and although I have plans and home school schedules in place, I'm also aware that these plans are flexible.
    Keep smiling and keep laughing.


    Caroline.x
    http://www.carolineelgeywhite.com

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