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HOW MUCH OF MY CHILDS FACE SHOULD I BE SHOWING ONLINE?

How much of my child's face should I be showing online? This question has been playing on my mind for quite some time now, more so since my daughter's first birthday.

The older she's becoming, the more recognisable she is & it scares me.


The dilemma of deciding how much of my daughter to show online has been in my thoughts for a few months now, maybe since October/November time last year.

It's been on my mind because I feel like at present I'm giving too much of her away, I feel guilty for not being able to shield her from the online world & I feel like I'm opening her up into a world she doesn't necessarily want to be in.

But I want to show her off.

I'm proud of everything she's becoming and equally how I'm transforming myself into a flipping kick ass mama (even if I do say so myself!)

I want to share my journey.

I want to unite mama's and wing this motherhood malarkey with all of you ladies with me - I think I just need to be more conscious of what it is exactly that I'm posting & how that'll affect my daughter in years to come.


The problem.
Since having my daughter I've surrounded myself with the most amazing online mama community and I've met some incredible people through taking my blog down the parenting and lifestyle route, however I feel like I can't carry on showing my daughters face to the world as much as I have been doing.

The world actually can be a very big & very bad place, and quite frankly I don't want to subject my child to any unnecessary attention, especially when she can't comprehend or consent to any of what's going on right now.

The thought of someone recognising my child in the street because I've showcased her on my blog gives me the chills! Heck, I've been there before; I've been out and about & saw a child who I thought looked like a certain Instagrammers' daughter and it shocked me - That thought doesn't sit quite right with me.

To be honest looking back, I think this is where my whole change in mindset originally came from.

Should I really be recognising someone's baby who I don't even know?

Just a thought.


The solution.
So... I'm a parenting & lifestyle blogger, but I'm not going to show my child online? Seems rather contradictory doesn't it. This is what I thought at first, and I still do to some extent, I'm just going to work around the problem, like anything else in life!

I'll still be sharing my honest opinions on motherhood and will still be portraying parenting in all of its glory, the good the bad and the ugly, because that's 100% what I'm about. That's absolutely not going to change, I'm just going to be super careful with the imagery that I use. I'm also planning on referring to my daughter by her middle name, as well as any other lovey doves pet names we have for her - There's a few to choose from, I'm not going to get stuck!

Both decisions are of my own choosing and my desire to keep my private life that little more private.

I'm sure there'll be teething problems (not just my daughters) as I begin being a bit more privy with my family life, however If I'm honest I'm not going to be 100% strict with myself by banning her completely from my blog and socials - I just want to limit the amount my daughters face appears on my feeds.

This in turn means being a bit more creative with what I post. I still want to be very much present online & continue what I'm doing with my #TogetherInMamahood community, I just need to think a little bit more outside of the box when it comes to picture taking. Content, I've got coming out of my ears, I'm never particularly lost for words when it comes to motherhood, I just want to limit the amount my daughters face appears online, especially the older and more recognisable she's becoming.


I've seen a few articles circling the web (do people still call it that now) recently from both perspectives, of mama's that don't want to show their babies faces online as well as those that do. After reading both sides, I've come to the very clear decision that quite frankly there's no right or wrong answer - I think you've just got to do what's best for you, and you most certainly don't need to justify whatever decision you make.

There's enough people out there judging our parenting skills anyway isn't there? *insert biggest eye roll ever here*

If you've made sense of my inner ramblings coming out in word form, thank you for your patience - I'd love to hear your thoughts on the matter?

Claire.X
3 comments on "HOW MUCH OF MY CHILDS FACE SHOULD I BE SHOWING ONLINE?"
  1. I've been thinking about this a lot lately as well. I tend to use a lot of stock photos on my blog, so my little boy doesn't appear much anyway, but I do worry whether he'll want his photos out there as he gets older.

    The parenting bloggers I follow do a lot of family time posts and I do love seeing their families grow and seeing what they're up to.

    Its definitly a difficult one! 🤷‍♀️

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  2. I think you've made a good choice Claire. I'm doing the same kind of thing, trying not to name my child as often and barely feature her on my grid, just the occasional story as I like that they only exist for 24 hours! You can also go back and Archive Instagram posts which hides them to others but saves them for yourself, which I think I will do at some point, especially as little miss gets older!

    Definitely an interesting topic!

    Emma xxx

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  3. I agree with this choice Claire. You can still blog as you wish, as a parent blogger, without showing her face. Many successful people do. Just makes you a bit more creative.lol
    You're her mum, you do what feels best.

    Caroline.x
    http://www.carolineelgeywhite.com

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