A parenting & lifestyle blog written by Claire Chircop.

MY ONLINE MAMA COMMUNITY.

I've found motherhood pretty lonely over the last year & have felt really quite isolated being a new parent, however one thing I've found solace in is my online mama community. Social media gets a bad rap these days, but for me especially over the last year it's been blooming amazing & I want to pay homage to what & who I've discovered who have made my parenting journey that little bit easier!


I've spoken in depth about the bittersweet loneliness and isolation I've felt during motherhood so far. I've felt so contradicted over the last year, I mean how can it be possible to feel so lonely when I'm with the person I love most 24/7. It's not an easy place to be.

Turns out nothing about parenthood is easy.
The thoughts.
The feelings.
The emotions... Especially the emotions.
None of it is easy!

I don't have a huge group of friends; The older I've gotten the more distant friendships have become, and that's okay, it's all part of life, but something I've noticeably lacked during pregnancy & motherhood is a support network of IRL (in real life) parents - People with hands on experience who are willing to speak about all parts of parenting, the good the bad & the ugly.

I needed to hunt out those people - Those people that were willing to display everything, because as this was my first pregnancy, I wanted to immerse myself in every possible bit of information out there.


This is where I turned to Instagram...

Instagram isn't someone I turn to on the regular, we all know it's full of people showing you their highlight reel & only showing you what they want you to see. It's not always real life & I think as I edge ever nearer to 30 I've got a decent enough head on my shoulders to decipher who's portrayal of motherhood is real & who's isn't.

Surprisingly it didn't take me long to find expectant mothers who were being super real about their pregnancies.

In all honesty I thought I was going to be inundated with women who were 'glowing', who had the most Pinterest worthy nurseries & expectant parents who'd already washed, dried and ironed all of their little peoples clothes by the end of their second trimester.

*Spoiler alert - I was not someone who'd already washed, dried and ironed all of my little persons clothes by the end of my second trimester.*


I found some amazing women but I figured I needed to turn myself into the person I wanted to find in order to attract more likeminded people.

I needed to open up about my experiences & be as open and honest about how I was feeling during my pregnancy - So that's exactly what I did - And low and behold I was magically aligned (thanks algorithm) to women who we're in exactly the same boat as me.

Women who were prepared to tell you everything!

Feeling nauseous for 99.9% of your pregnancy? I want to know!
Don't want your partner to come within 5 feet of you? I want to know!
Feeling like you're loosing yourself to motherhood already? I want to know!
Already terrified about money worries being on maternity leave? I want to know!


I began my search by scouting out pregnancy announcements on Instagram which of course there was an abundance of! There was a whole load of women in the same boat as me & to be honest at this point I wasn't particularly following people, just liking there posts, but after a few weeks you begin to see the same names crop up time and time again & I thought, yup, these people are my people, I need to follow their journey!

Speaking of pregnancy announcements, Lauren from bylaurenjane has recently had her little boy, but her pregnancy announcement on instagram was genius. She came up with such a cool idea to signify she was expecting baby Ethan by placing a teeny tiny pair of white converse in between pairs that belong to both herself & her husband. Super cute, super simple, but really effective!

Also a quick shout out to Alice from alicejanepotter, who I wasn't following at the time, but recently showed her pregnancy announcement again & I'm pretty sure it's the best bit of stop motion I've ever seen! Pure genius!

Towards the end of my pregnancy I found the hashtag #thirdtrimesterproblems especially fun to follow. Pregnancy isn't always pretty, especially during the third trimester when you're the size of a whale, waddling around trying not to pee yourself! I found so many mama's making light of their 'third trimester problems' and honestly took so much solace from the fact that I was just one of many expectant mothers trying my very best not to piss myself!

I found so many people who were my kind of people during pregnancy & it was so nice having people going through the same turmoils as myself only to be landed (who am I kidding, labour isn't that easy) with a beautiful baby by the end of it.


During my pregnancy I was super honest and open about what I was posting & have continued to do the same since having Amelia. I haven't tried to be relatable with what I post, I just post from the heart, quite often rather spontaneously, but what I've found is that being an overall good egg is the best policy and it's lead me into the paths of so many other good eggs.

Pregnancy, childbirth & becoming a mother has empowered me & you know how the saying goes...

Empowered women, empower women!

And that's what I'm going to do!


Abi @abilourich
Abi is the brains (and beauty) behind the #projectbabyandme community, which is where I've been introduced to SO many amazing mamas. Abi herself is an amazing mama to Teddy, who's only a couple of weeks younger than my Amelia. It's so nice to have kids at a similar age and we've often chatted about the trials and tribulations that come with raising them. I can hand on heart say I don't think my online mama community would be the same if it wasn't for her - She's opened the door for me to help leave loneliness behind!


Meghan @meghanwalshblogs
Meghan is my gal! I'm sure if we lived closer & actually met in real life we'd be amazing pals, as would our girls. Meghan is someone who is brutally honest about motherhood, and whether you're expecting a child or are already a parent, I think she's someone that you NEED to follow. She's honest, she's relatable and she's got a whole load of sass! Turning up to her works Christmas party in a suit with slicked back hair & big gold hoops - She's got enough sass for the both of us!


Clare @thelifelately
Clare is someone who is always there! Want to have a whinge - She's there! Want to gush over how grown up our girls look - She's there! Want advice on what the hell I should be doing with my baby - She's there! What I especially love about Clare is how normal & chilled out she is, again she's someone I feel I could be pals with IRL & she's made me feel so much more reassured during my parenting journey. Plus Eva is the most delicious thing - I think our girls would get on like a house on fire too!


Emma @walkerhill_house
Emma & I had been friends for quite a while before we both discovered we were pregnant. Weirdly it's felt like we've both had the same pregnancy/parenting journey - We both found out we were pregnant before our wedding days & we both confided in each other before we told our families, we went through pregnancy together & even though our due dates were further apart, my late arrival & Emma's early arrival means there's two weeks between our girls & I bloody love it!


I'm surrounded my so many amazing women & their wonderful babies, I really couldn't ask to be part of a better mama community. I've noticed 'mummy bloggers' (gahh I hate that term) getting quite a bit of flack in the online world recently, but I can honestly say I've never had a problem with anyone or anything mentioned before.

Maybe I'm one of the lucky ones - I have so many other amazing women to thank for that.

Alice @alicejanepotter & her little girl Eve never fail to put a smile on my face - Eve is killer at pulling stunts & I'm sure she keeps Alice very much on her toes!
Caroline @carolineelgeywhite is my gal! She has two sons and is the most supportive woman out there! After swapping phone numbers last year she's always only a WhatsApp away & someone I rely on for ultimate parenting advice.
Kate @mama.and.little.moon without fail is always at the end of a DM when I have burning questions about how on Earth I become a good parent. Plus little Luna is absolute fashion goals - I'd love my Amelia to be as well dressed as her!
Sarah @sarahbolstridge is super supportive, engaging & an overall good egg. She's also recently started up a new series on her blog, getting to know other new mamas, which will be great for finding new people in this community.
Alice @alicespake knows her shit, when it comes to all aspects of everything, parenting, beauty lifestyle, she hits the nail on the head every damn time!
Natasha @quinlan_diaries is currently pregnant with her second child, a new sibling for lovely Harry. Natasha's the loveliest mama and someone I speak to on the reg, she's brilliant!
Lex @eatweepmumrepeat - I mean, you have to follow Lex for her insta handle alone right? She's so open and honest about her motherhood journey with Ramsay & I love her good news stories she posts to Instagram each morning.
* Codie @codiekinz.co.uk had her little boy called Ruben a week or so earlier than Amelia & I remember living for her labour insta stories, she was a true warrior & someone I've loved followed ever since (in the least stalker way possible).
Jenny @the_northkernow_mum is only relatively new on my mama radar but I love following her for her insanely beautiful photos of not only Ellie, but of Cornwall where she lives - It's stunning!
Amy @fitterrrrbug is literally wonder woman! How she holds down running her own business & looking after beautiful Norah is beyond me!
Amy @thewifeedit is another business owner who's absolutely smashing the shit out of being really real about motherhood. Her & Ava are gorgeous inside & out!
Gemma @gemellisx and her little boy Reuben are flipping gorgeous. I love their matching checkerboard Vans a hella load but I love how supportive Gemma is even more so, she's amazing!
Jess @thetravelista had had one hell of a motherhood journey so far but it hasn't stopped her being the most down to earth & welcoming person. Theo has achieved many amazing things so far & I'm sure they'll both go on to do so much more!
Ashleigh @ashleighsmoments is someone I speak to so often & regularly swap stories with about the good, the bad & the ugly when it comes to our girls, she's super supportive.
* Kirsty @thevioletblonde is mama to beautiful Florence. I love seeing what they get up to & find Kirsty so supportive! She's brilliant.

I'm going to keep adding to my amazing list of mamas as I discover more so I'll be sure to keep you all regularly updated. I'm sure I'll have missed some people off by accident as well, there's always someone I forget... I forgot to send my Grandma an invitation to my wedding, so don't feel too bad, I'm naturally the most forgetful person ever!

Which mamas are on your 'to follow' list?

Claire.X
3 comments on "MY ONLINE MAMA COMMUNITY."
  1. Love this! I have found so much solace on Instagram throughout my motherhood journey too. It is so reassuring to know other people are going through the same thing

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  2. Aw Claire I love this! Thank you so much for mentioning me. I don't really feature my boys, but I'm still a mum on the edge like everyone else! Haha!
    Some great mentions also, I follow a number of these ladies myself and just love the relatability. :)

    We got this mums! :)

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  3. Beautiful story and post! Being a new mum is so challenging..love your blog!

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