Welcome to my mini-series Together In Mamahood, a 10 question questionnaire filled out by mama's all across the country, hoping to serve motherhood realness and show all new mums out there that we're all in this together... When in reality we're all just winging it! Details of how you can get involved will be down below.

Mama: Helen Spencer
Baby: Henrietta (9) Joshua (9) & Imogen (7).

Henrietta Joshua & Imogen

Q1. What's one thing you said you wouldn't do as a parent that you definitely have done?
Giving the twins a dummy - My sanity was hanging on them sleeping, so it felt like the lesser of two evils. I was so very resolute that my kids weren’t having a dummy and yet within weeks, I had to retract this statement because I learnt that sleep deprivation is most definitely a form of torture.

Q2. What's been the hardest thing about motherhood so far?
Illnesses. I absolutely hate when Team Twiglet are poorly. I have had far too many ambulance trips and properly poorly small people. It's an impossibly hard position, primarily because I knew a hug wasnt going to make it better. I really wish that a Mama hug was all it took between now and eternity for everyone to be well.

Q3. Have you settled into a routine with your little one? If so, how easy has it been?
A routine, yes. 7am-7pm and I endeavour to implement it always. Except now they are older, my rules are failing me as its coming up 9pm and they are still here, annoying the living daylights out of each other. And me.

Q4. What's surprised you most about motherhood?
My constant feeling of inadequacy. The rest of life comes with a rule book - A manual if you will. But kids don’t. Children are passed over to a beaming parent, car seat in tow, with a pat on the back and a smile. And then you shit yourself. Oh yeah, I know how to bath a baby because the midwife explained it to me once, but I have no idea how to make them comfortable or even safe, I had no bloody idea. I am not sure if that would be classed as a surprise or shock though! 

Q5. Do you think social media portrays motherhood correctly?
No, not really. I dislike some of the insta-perfect “representations” of parenting. There aren’t many times in the last 10 years I have had the time to find a peg board or fill a balloon with sex appropriate colours. Its not that I don’t appreciate other peoples efforts, its just personally, I don’t seem to able to find the time. I utilise social media massively for my blog and waffle, but we definitely don’t live an insta-worthy life, and I am ok with that..

Q6. What do you think of your post-partum body?
I did really well on the post baby body thing to start with. Despite putting on 5 1/2 stone when growing the twins, I was back to my wedding weight within 3 weeks postpartum. And #BossBaby was 7 1/2 lbs of the stone I put on with her. Then I broke my foot and it all went tits up. I have an unjustified mum tum now. Which isnt actually anything to do with babies, its down to the fact that I am a fat bastard and can’t turn down a roast potato. 
I had my boobs “done” in-between my two pregnancies. It was something that I had planned to do much younger, pre kids, but that annoying thing known as the Big C got in the way. However, when I took the plunge (did you like what I did there?) It has far and away been the best purchase I have ever made. Confidence isnt my forte, and having gone from an AA to an EE and back again, I had ended up with empty teabags instead of boobies. Due to my medication I was unable to breastfeed, so whilst it was a selfish thing to do, it didn’t have any detrimental effects to my tribe.

Q7. What's been your favourite memory so far on your parenting journey?
Oh my gosh, there are so very many, I am not sure I can narrow them down to just one. I love the fact Team Twiglet enjoy spending time with us, and enjoy sharing memories with us. If push came to shove I would probably say the day  BossBaby came home. The twins were 2 and the minute we walked through the door, I felt complete.

Q8. How do you feel you’ve changed since becoming a parent?
I am not sure I can even recognise who I was before I became a Mummy. I have changed in every single way. My outlook is now entirely based on my children’s happiness. There is nothing more important to me than them having the best start in life that I can possibly offer. I can also negotiate with anyone, which is not something I could claim pre kids. I would happily be a wallflower at any opportunity before, but now, I have a tendency to face the shit storm head on and hope for the best.

Q9. What's been your proudest motherhood moment?
Team Twiglet being “them". Watching the pride on their faces when they have friends home. And if Daddy is there, we are on for a Brucey Bonus of dreams. I am honoured to say I can happily take my children anywhere from a parents evening to a Michelin star restaurant and all thats in-between.. I am privileged to be able to say that my tribe can behave(ish) wherever I drag them next.

Q10. Looking to the future, what are you most excited for your little one to experience?
Life, and all that it entails. I hope to see them finish school and fulfil even the most wildest of dreams. As my health isnt the greatest, I really want to enjoy future memories and be here to celebrate them with my tribe. All I want for each of them is their happiness, wherever and whatever that may be. After all, what is life if it is not happy? 

If you're wanting to get involved please feel free to DM me @ClaireMacBlog or send me an email to as I'd love for you to join the 'Together In Mamahood' party bus.

You can answer whatever you feel comfortable answering, all I ask is that it's honest! I wan't to show others how flipping hard this parenting lark is!... Because I don't think we give ourselves enough credit for it! And we should! I'll of course be sharing the ish out of your social medias & blogs etc, so let's let loose, connect with one another and raise a glass to all those mamas just getting by!


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