Welcome to my mini-series Together In Mamahood, a 10 question questionnaire filled out by mama's all across the country, hoping to serve motherhood realness and show all new mums out there that we're all in this together... And in reality, we're all just winging it! Details of how you can get involved will be down below.

Mama: Charlotte Thornton.
Baby: Rufus (6 months).

Charlotte & Rufus.

Q1. What's one thing you said you wouldn't do as a parent that you definitely have done?
Oh god hahah! I tried to be quite easy breezy in pregnancy, so I was a bit ‘never say never’. But I didn’t think I would use a dummy, stick the baby in front of CBeebies or checked to make sure he’s breathing 18 times a night... Basically, until you’ve lived motherhood, I really don’t think you can say what you will and won’t do... different strokes for different folks!

Q2. What's been the hardest thing about motherhood so far?
Feeding. Without a doubt. I bottle feed. I am still a huge advocate for breastfeeding, I think it’s amazing, but it wasn’t right for me and my son. Everyone thinks their way is the right way, but in reality every baby and every mother is different. There can’t be a one size fits all. I agonised and made myself ill stressing over the ‘right’ thing to do, when in reality the only people I needed to think about was me and Ru! 

Q3. Have you settled into a routine with your little one? If so, how easy has it been?
I think we’re kind of there? Ish? He’s not much of a napper, so it’s been really tough to try and find a routine that works. I feel like starting solids has helped though! It gives us more of an anchor through the day. It’s not fine tuned though - I want to sort out his afternoon nap as he often doesn’t go down until about 4 which is very dangerous territory! 

Q4. What's surprised you most about motherhood?
How vulnerable it makes you, while simultaneously making you the strongest you’ve ever been. One minute you’re sobbing uncontrollably because you can’t find the teething ring you need, the next you’re pulling faces at your baby trying to make him laugh.
I’ve overcome my own emotions so many times to be there for him, and I never fail to be surprised by how strong I can be. 

Q5. Do you think social media portrays motherhood correctly?
I think you have to curate the right community. If you follow ‘instaperfect’ Mums, then you’re never getting insight into the fact you’re exactly the same and totally unique at the same time. If something makes you feel rubbish, it shouldn’t be there. It’s easy to just follow and put up, but if you don’t like something you see, deffo do something about it! 

Q6. How do you feel about your post partum body?
Oh god. It's love hate. I am in awe at the fact my wobbly bits made my beautiful boy. But I don’t recognise myself. I had a c-section so I don’t really understand the weird pooch I have going on now, nor am I sure where to start getting back to myself. But for now, as long as my arms allow me to squeeze Rufus tight, I’m happy. 

Q7. What's been your favourite memory so far on your parenting journey?
HAHAHAHAAHA ok, so when Rufus was really tiny, in the middle of the night, we were just dozing off when we were jolted awake by this almighty ‘HA!’ I’m talking like Mrs Crabapple from the Simpsons in my Moses basket. It was just so ridiculous and I almost wet myself with laughter. Like, I had just had a baby, so it was a real possibility!!!. 

Q8. How do you feel you've changed since becoming a parent?
I think I’m a lot calmer, actually. I studied hypnobirthing, and I’ve taken a lot of that into my general life. I’m much more mindful and less anxious (as much as you can be with an anxiety disorder). I live in the moment much more - something I never thought I’d be able to do. 

Q9. What's been your proudest motherhood moment?
I feel it every day, when Rufus smiles at me. He reminds me that I’m doing something right. 

Q10. Looking to the future, what are you most excited for your little one to experience?
Books! Reading was always my favourite thing as a kid - I loved getting lost in different worlds (still do!) and would spend hours and hours exploring stories. I can’t wait until Rufus can experience that immersion himself, but for now, I will settle for reading to him - it’s my favourite thing in the world.

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Charlotte's twitter: @thehiveat28

If you're wanting to get involved please feel free to DM me @ClaireMacBlog or send me an email to as I'd love for you to join the 'Together In Mamahood' party bus.

You can answer whatever you feel comfortable answering, all I ask is that it's honest! I wan't to show others how flipping hard this parenting lark is!... Because I don't think we give ourselves enough credit for it! And we should! I'll of course be sharing the ish out of your social medias & blogs etc, so let's let loose, connect with one another and raise a glass to all those mamas just getting by!


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