Leeds, UK

Welcome to my new mini-series 'Mama in Question' a 10 question questionnaire filled out by mama's all across the country, hoping to serve motherhood realness and show all new mums out there that we're all in this together... When in reality we're all just winging it! Details of how you can get involved will be down below.

Mama: Zoey Timney.
Children: Harry (5 years old) Freddy (2 years old)

Q1. What's one thing you said you wouldn't do as a parent that you definitely have done?
I always envisioned tricking them into thinking fruit and yoghurts were treats and not sweets however when other family members give your children those things to eat when babysitting etc there’s no going back. They know what they are and they’ll constantly ask for them so if they’re good I now give them sweets as treats. 

Q2. What's been the hardest thing about motherhood so far?
I think it’s the automatic loss of your own freedom and sense of self. I majorly forgot who Zoey was for a good few years as I was just Harry and Freddy’s mam. Now Harry’s in full time school and Freddy’s due to start afternoon nursery in November I’m slowly finding myself again as an individual.

Q3. Have you settled into a routine with your little one? If so, how easy has it been?
I was very lucky with Harry and Freddy in that as babies they naturally had good routines they fell into. Now they’re both older it’s easier to move away from routine if needed eg mealtimes don’t have to be as rigid like when they were smaller which makes it so much easier if we’re running late for whatever reason.

Q4. What's surprised you most about motherhood?
How hard it is. Growing up playing with dolls and seeing babies being born into the family made me naively think I’d be a natural straight away. However the reality is a lot different! It’s relentless and constant hard work being on the clock 24/7.

Q5. Do you think social media portrays motherhood correctly?
No way! There are more of the social media accounts who only show the warm, fuzzy, perfect side of motherhood that make you feel like you are doing everything wrong all of the time. I much prefer the mothers who aren’t size 0 showing their children having a huge tantrum in the middle of the supermarket showing the normality of motherhood. They make you feel not alone and not a failure!

Q6. What do you think of your post-partum body?
I’m always in two minds on this. Most of the time I’m content in being a stone heavier with stretch-marks as I'm grateful for my body allowing me to create two healthy children when others who can’t would kill for it. On the very few days the insecure me thinks god if only I could lose a bit of weight. Thankfully those days a very few and far between. To be honest I was never in love with my body pre babies (I don’t know anyone who does) so I usually just say to myself I don’t look that bad for having two children. There’s more important things in the world to worry about than if whether I should eat pizza.

Q7. What's been your favourite memory so far on your parenting journey?
Seeing them both hit all their milestones. Experiencing them starting to walk, talk etc makes me think how lucky I am to be a parent. Watching their personalities develop, likes and dislikes, similarities to myself or my husband are all amazing to witness. It’s hard to pinpoint one memory for each child because as the days, months and years go on more memories are made that I will look back on and think wow wasn’t that an incredible time.

Q8. How do you feel you've changed since becoming a parent?
I literally became an emotional wreck starting from first falling pregnant I cry at sad things a lot more than I used to. I also used to be quite a cold, detached person but I think my boys have brought out a softer side to me. Also my confidence has increased massively.

Q9. What's been your proudest motherhood moment?

Going from one child to two was really difficult for me. I saw a lot of people saying how going from no children to one was the hardest adjustment but I felt the opposite. Trying to juggle a just turned three year old and a newborn whilst we’d just moved house was tough going. I developed post natal depression during this time that lasted for a long while and I guess my proudest motherhood moment was being proud of myself for finally allowing myself to let that feeling of dark clouds lift and finally being able to enjoy having my two boys.

Q10. Looking to the future, what are you most excited for your little one to experience?

Everything. I can’t wait for them to see the world, achieve through school and life in general, enjoy finding themselves. The opportunities for them are endless and the support their dad and I can give them, they can be anyone they want to be and do anything they want to do. I’m just glad we’ll be along for the ride.

If you're wanting to get involved please feel free to DM me @__ClaireMac or send me an email to as I'd love for you to join the 'Mama's in Question' party bus.

You can answer whatever you feel comfortable answering, all I ask is that it's honest! I wan't to show others how flipping hard this parenting lark is!... Because I don't think we give ourselves enough credit for it! And we should! I'll of course be sharing the ish out of your social medias & blogs etc, so let's let loose, connect with one another and raise a glass to all those mamas just getting by!


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