Welcome to my new mini-series 'Mama in Question' a 10 question questionnaire filled out by mama's all across the country, hoping to serve motherhood realness and show all new mums out there that we're all in this together... When in reality we're all just winging it! Details of how you can get involved will be down below.

Mama: Amy Cossey
Baby: Cupar (18 months)

Q1. What's one thing you said you wouldn't do as a parent that you definitely have done?
I always said I wouldn’t allow mobile phones, tablets or computers until at least 16 years old, but guess what I’ve done 15 years early?! We don’t allow free access to them, but Cupar does have a tablet and a phone (without a sim card) that he can use. I’ve found that they can be really helpful when I’m changing his nappy and he won’t stay still, or when we’re in the car on a long journey and he’s getting restless.
He has a couple of toddler games that he can play, and he watches The Wiggles on Netflix sometimes. It does go against what I said I would do, but I think technology is just an inevitable part of life nowadays, and something that we can't really avoid.

Q2. What's been the hardest thing about motherhood so far?
Oh, it’s definitely the lack of sleep. I thought I was prepared for it, but it turns out that I really wasn’t. My little boy isn’t the best sleeper and dealing with a night of broken sleep and then trying to get through the next day can really take its toll. I’ve always tried to nap when Cupar naps which has really helped.
At the moment he usually has a couple of hours sleep in the afternoon when I get home from work, so I curl up with him and get some sleep too.

Q3. Have you settled into a routine with your little one? If so, how easy has it been?
We’ve never really had a routine because we’re not routine people ourselves, but we do seem to have settled into one. It’s been quite easy really, and I think that’s because we’ve never pushed anything. We’ve never had a set bedtime, or a time to get up, we’ve just followed Cupar’s lead. We do try to have mealtimes at the same time each day, and we try to go out somewhere every day, but apart from that, we’re quite easy going.

Q4. What's surprised you most about motherhood?
The thing that’s surprised me the most about motherhood is the level of love I have for this little person. He’s my whole world, and I’d do anything to make sure he’s happy. We do everything together apart from when I’m at work, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’m fiercely protective of him, and I didn’t even like other people holding him for the first year. Even now I still get that ‘give him back to me’ feeling every time someone picks him up. I never expected to be an overprotective parent, so that’s really taken me by surprise.

Q5. Do you think social media portrays motherhood correctly?
It does and it doesn’t. We get to see lots of photos of happy smiley faces and families having fun on days out together, which is great, but in reality that’s only half the story. What we don’t get to see is the child behind the camera who is having a meltdown and refusing to be in the photo, the baby in the pram that’s crying because it’s suffering from colic, or the Mum with the dark circles under her eyes because she’s been up 6 times during the night. These are the things that people don’t usually share, because who wants to post pictures of their child crying or admit to the fact, that as a new Mum, you haven’t had a chance to wash your hair in 5 days.
It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it does tend to give a rose-tinted view on motherhood!

Q6. What do you think of your postpartum body?
The one thing that has really got to me about my postpartum body is how much weight I’ve lost since I’ve been breastfeeding. I’ve always been slim, but feeding on demand day and night meant that I lost a lot of weight in the first few months. It got so bad that I was actually classed as underweight and was told I’d have to give up breastfeeding if I lost any more. Luckily, things seem to have evened out now, and although I’m still not the weight I want to be, I’m slowly getting there.

Q7. What's been your favourite memory so far on your parenting journey?
Cupar’s first Christmas. Christmas is my favourite time of year, and I’d been looking forward to celebrating it with my own children for years. Our first Christmas Day as a family was magical and it was everything I’d hoped for. Some of the highlights were Cupar trying chocolate for the first time, Santas sleigh going past our house on Christmas morning, and Cupar eating his first Christmas dinner and falling asleep in his highchair.

Q8. How do you feel you've changed since becoming a parent?
Becoming a parent has changed my whole lifestyle. Before I had my little boy I loved nothing more than a night out with friends, drinking wine until the early hours. I was always out and had a bit of a party lifestyle. Now that I’m a Mum I just want to be at home all the time! I love my evenings reading books with Cupar or cuddling up on the sofa with him to watch a film. I’ve only been out a couple of times since he’s been born, and I honestly don’t miss it.

Q9. What's been your proudest motherhood moment?
Cupar learning to walk is my proudest moment so far. He tried and tried for months to walk on his own without holding onto anything, and always seemed like he didn’t have any confidence. Then, one day, he just did it, and he had the biggest smile on his face. Now he wants to walk everywhere and always grabs my hand to drag me off to places.

Q10. Looking to the future, what are you most excited for your little one to experience?
Friendship is something that I’m really looking forward to Cupar experiencing. Friends are such an important part of our lives, and I’m looking forward to him making some lifelong friends when he’s older.

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You can answer whatever you feel comfortable answering, all I ask is that it's honest! I wan't to show others how flipping hard this parenting lark is!... Because I don't think we give ourselves enough credit for it! And we should! I'll of course be sharing the ish out of your social medias & blogs etc, so let's let loose, connect with one another and raise a glass to all those mamas just getting by!


1 comment

  1. Great post! It's super interesting to read about motherhood and you honesty about it all :) x


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