A Yorkshire based lifestyle & parenting blog written by Claire Chircop.

MAMA IN QUESTION: CLARE POTTS.

Welcome to my new mini-series 'Mama in Question' a 10 question questionnaire filled out by mama's all across the country, hoping to serve motherhood realness and show all new mums out there that we're all in this together... When in reality we're all just winging it! Details of how you can get involved will be down below.

Mama: Clare Potts
Baby: Eva Victoria Anderson



Q1. What's one thing you said you wouldn't do as a parent that you definitely have done?
I probably do so many to be honest, I'm always sniffing her bum in public and doing a mum voice! But the one I was adamant about not doing that I do pretty much every day is say Eva's age in months and weeks. I always used to get so confused when people would say 'oh she's 21 and a half months' and think, just say she's nearly 2! But a month makes such a difference when you're a tiny baby, every week makes a difference. I am actively trying to stop it now but I still said 'she'll be 10 months in a couple of days' in Aldi earlier when someone asked me, sigh.

Q2. What's been the hardest thing about motherhood so far?
The complete relentlessness of it all. You're never off duty, even if someone else is looking after her she's still constantly on my mind and I ask for updates all the time. I think I would be slightly different if I wasn't breastfeeding anymore as I'm always worried she'll be hungry or thirsty if I'm not there, just a nice extra dose of mum guilt.

Q3. Have you settled into a routine with your little one? If so, how easy has it been?
Thankfully Eva was pretty keen to get herself into a routine quite early on so it's not been too difficult to establish one. It changes all the time but the basic structure always stays the same, basically sleep, feed, play repeat! I love a bit of routine and structure so I was always keen to get one in place. I actually have a new blog post all about our 9 month old baby routine if you fancy a nosey. 


Q4. What's surprised you most about motherhood?
I think it was the fact that I knew nothing about babies before, there are so many tiny (and huge!) details that you have no idea about before you have a baby. The amount that it changes your body (oh hi post partum hair loss), what clothes they need to wear in different temperatures, how to wean them, how many times you need to change their nappy, even down to the little things like I bought Eva a pillow and duvet while I was pregnant not realising she wouldn't need them until she was over a year old... 

Q5. Do you think social media portrays motherhood correctly?
It completely depends to be honest, some people portray an idyllic view and some people go so far the other way that it can be hard to tell what the truth actually is. I think the majority of people I follow have a good balance, usually with aspirational photos but realistic captions on their feed and honest Instagram stories. You never really know what it's like until you experience it though and it's different for everyone! My favourite Mum Instagram accounts are Disasters of a Thirty SomethingHannah Gale and The Frugality, they're all 'real', have a similar style to me (I love me some fashion and beauty content as well as motherhood) and are totally honest.

Q6. How did you decide upon your baby's name?
Eva was the first name Joe and I agreed on very early on! We switched to Margot a bit later on but when she was born she seemed more like an Eva so we went back to that. Her full name is Eva Victoria Anderton so her initials are EVA too which was a happy accident! Victoria is my middle name (pretty much all of the eldest girls in my family have Victoria as a middle name, it's a bit of a tradition) and Anderton is my boyfriend's last name, so there's a bit of both of us in there.

Q7. What's been your favourite memory so far on your parenting journey?
Oh I have so many, Eva is such a lovely baby that there's something every day that makes me so happy. But my favourite times are when it's just Eva, Joe and I are at home playing together, nothing can beat a bit of family time. Eva and I also went to Paris on our own which was a bit daunting but an amazing trip, I'm so glad we did it.


Q8. How do you feel you've changed since becoming a parent?
I was so selfish before! Rightfully so I as I didn't have anyone depending on me but now there's no way I can be selfish. Eva takes priority at pretty much all times, even down to what I wear so I can easily feed her or carry her in public.

Q9. What's been your proudest motherhood moment?
Honestly it changes every times she does something new, I'm an overly proud mother! I love it when she learns something new like rolling over, standing up or clapping, I love that she's becoming a little person more and more each day. I'm basically going to explode with pride when she gets or job or something in the future!

Q10. Looking to the future, what are you most excited for your little one to experience?

Oh so many things! I cannot wait for her to swim in the sea, to try chocolate, to run around, to make friends, to learn so many new things, to meet all of our friends and family, to hear live music. Basically everything that makes people happy!

Clare's Blog: www.thelifelately.com
Clare's Instagram: @thelifelately
Clare's Twitter: @iliketweet

If you're wanting to get involved please feel free to DM me @__ClaireMac or send me an email to clairemacblog@gmail.com as I'd love for you to join the 'Mama's in Question' party bus.

You can answer whatever you feel comfortable answering, all I ask is that it's honest! I wan't to show others how flipping hard this parenting lark is!... Because I don't think we give ourselves enough credit for it! And we should! I'll of course be sharing the ish out of your social medias & blogs etc, so let's let loose, connect with one another and raise a glass to all those mamas just getting by!

Claire.X

MAMA IN QUESTION: NATALI TOPLIFF.

Welcome to my new mini-series 'Mama in Question' a 10 question questionnaire filled out by mama's all across the country, hoping to serve motherhood realness and show all new mums out there that we're all in this together... When in reality we're all just winging it! Details of how you can get involved will be down below.

Mama: Natali Topliff
Baby: Isaac (16 months)



Q1. What's one thing you said you wouldn't do as a parent that you definitely have done?
Share pictures of him online. I was adamant I wouldn't share any on social media, but when he was born I wanted to show off how cute he was! I still change my mind all the time about whether I should or shouldn't share pictures, especially on Instagram as my profile isn't private.

Q2. What's been the hardest thing about motherhood so far?
Learning that you are never alone now. I have a little buddy in every aspect of my day, my baths/showers are invaded, I have someone on my lap when I go to the toilet, and all my food is his too! 

Q3. Have you settled into a routine with your little one? If so, how easy has it been?
We have no routine, we follow his lead entirely. Some days it works and others it doesn't. Overall I am happy with how we have approached raising him.

Q4. What's surprised you most about motherhood?
My patience! I had very little before and made sure I always had 'me' time to recharge mentally. Now I never have time to myself, but somehow I have endless patience with the little one. He can be pulling my hair and hitting me, and I still don't get annoyed with him.

Q5. Do you think social media portrays motherhood correctly?
Yes if you follow the right people! There are so many wonderful people on social media who are open about the ups and downs of motherhood. If you only follow 'celebrities' then you will see unattainable goals that can only be reached with dieticians, personal trainers, and in-house nannies.

Q6. How did you decide upon your baby's name?
We actually had the name Lucas picked out as the boy's name from very early on (we didn't know the gender until birth), however, as we got closer to the due date we started liking Isaac more. We knew a couple that were due the day after us, and they were naming their boy Luca, so we decided on Isaac 100%.

Q7. What's been your favourite memory so far on your parenting journey?
The first day my mum babysat him. I have an attachment style of parenting and didn't feel comfortable leaving him with other people for quite a while. My mum babysat Isaac a few months ago so me and my OH could go to the cinema, I was checking my phone the whole film, but he had a wonderful time with his nanny C!

Q8. How do you feel you've changed since becoming a parent?
As I pointed out above I have so much more care and patience than I ever thought I could have. Overall I think I'm a much more understanding and empathetic person. I have also impressed myself with how well I am able to keep going without sleep ;)

Q9. What's been your proudest motherhood moment?
Honestly, every day I find something to be proud of! Isaac is my best friend and total partner in crime, at his current age it's like he is showing me something new daily. I see his caring, sweet personality starting to come out and I could not be prouder of the young boy he is becoming!


Q10. Looking to the future, what are you most excited for your little one to experience?The world! (Putting aside my worries about the future of our planet) I am so excited for him to learn, and meet people, to see things I only dreamed about, or to fall completely head over heels in love!

Natali's Blog: www.talilifestyle.com
Natali's Instagram: @tali.lifestyle

If you're wanting to get involved please feel free to DM me @__ClaireMac or send me an email to clairemacblog@gmail.com as I'd love for you to join the 'Mama's in Question' party bus.

You can answer whatever you feel comfortable answering, all I ask is that it's honest! I wan't to show others how flipping hard this parenting lark is!... Because I don't think we give ourselves enough credit for it! And we should! I'll of course be sharing the ish out of your social medias & blogs etc, so let's let loose, connect with one another and raise a glass to all those mamas just getting by!

Claire.X