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MAMA IN QUESTION: ASHLEIGH DAVIS.

Welcome to my new mini-series 'Mama in Question' a 10 question questionnaire filled out by mama's all across the country, hoping to serve motherhood realness and show all new mums out there that we're all in this together... And in reality we're all just winging it! Details of how you can get involved will be down below.

Mama: Ashleigh Davis
Baby: Alexis Corrine Stilwell (5 weeks)




Q1. What's one thing you said you wouldn't do as a parent that you definitely have done?
I'm going to start off question one with possibly the worst parent answer I could ever give. There isn't anything in particular that I was adamant I wouldn't do. But there was one thing I shouldn't have done and should have definitely done differently. One night during one of the many night feeds I have accomplished in the past 5 weeks, my little one greeted me with those joyful high pitched screams! I jumped up to my feet ready to prepare her bottle. Although I was exhausted I made it through the next 30 minutes and the bottle came to an end. Thank the lord yet another feed was over and it was time for me to go back to bed. I knew in my head her nappy was likely to need to be changed but I was exhausted (Like, how many times do we need to change our babies, seriously!? they pee too much). I contemplated with myself for a good five minutes and unfortunately, my selfish mind won. I put her back to bed and hoped she'd hold on until the next time our tired eyes meet again... she didn't. We woke up in a patch of wetness and my god did I feel like an awful mother. It's safe to say this has not occurred again and I feel terrible for allowing it to in the first place. It's bloody hard being a parent and I can admit I've made mistakes. Motherhood is anything but a movie, this is real life.

Q2. What's been the hardest thing about motherhood so far?
The hardest thing for me has actually been adjusting to my new life. I'm not afraid to admit I've struggled since giving birth. Not only with my new role as a mother but learning to accept my new body as well. I've had a hard time dealing with my hormones and emotions since bringing my daughter into this world. Postnatal depression or otherwise known as baby blues is no joke. It's a very hard process and without the support I've had, I don't know how on earth I would have made it through. Each day does get better and I'm sure I'll be fine in the end but for now, it's ok to admit I do struggle.

Q3. Have you settled into a routine with your little one? If so, how easy has it been?
I do try to keep a routine with Alexis. For instance, my little one does have a bath and bed at the same time every night. Lol, I joke. As a mother of a 5 week old, we do not have day and night. We have sleep when we can and unfortunately that's a rare occasion in this house. I think Alexis is a little too young to have a routine yet and If I'm wrong please give me tips on how to make this happen! because I'm obviously doing something not quite right.

Q4. What's surprised you most about motherhood?
The thing that surprised me most about being a mother was the intense amount of love I felt for my baby. I wanted to mention this as during my whole pregnancy I was scared because I did not feel a connection. Don't get me wrong, I wanted no harm to come to my baby but I didn't feel like I had bonded with her. This extremely bothered me because I knew I wasn't a bad person and wanted to be nothing more than a great mum. When my little one finally arrived on the 21st of May, I was absolutely besotted with love. I can't even begin to explain the love I had for her. I just want other mums to know that sometimes it does take time. Feeling this way does not make you a bad person or in fact a bad mother, so please do not feel guilty.



Q5. Do you think social media portrays motherhood correctly?
I'm going to be entirely honest, I don't know. I think it really depends on who and what people are sharing! During my pregnancy, I did find many parental accounts on Instagram which did share their experiences with complete honesty and I really enjoyed following these! I think it's super important to show the true side to motherhood because it is a fantastic and rewarding job but it's also super hard. So why lie about it? The truth is, it's flipping challenging at times. Although, when you look at parenting and motherhood from the celebrities perspective, there is one thing that really does bother me. I don't feel that they show after birth recovery honestly. Correct me if I'm wrong but I'm forever seeing celebrities and influencers give birth and within a week they already have their body back and look even better than before. From my experience, that's not right? I'm 5 weeks postpartum and my body has changed completely. I don't know what I expected but I guess I kinda expected to go back to the same but that just hasn't happened.

Q6. How did you decide upon your baby's name?
Since I was a little girl I always knew that I wanted to call my daughter Alex. I have always loved that name... or even anything slightly similar for example; Alexandra, Alexa, Alexis! Thankfully, my partner also liked this so I didn't have to fight him over the name choice either, which is always a bonus. Since day one, we always knew we were going to call her Alexis. But then that left the question of what's going to be her middle name? Or are we even going to have a middle name? Sadly my partners mum passed away so we decided to keep a little part of her in our family. We decided to use my partner's mums name and call her Alexis Corrine. I thought that it was a beautiful, unique and perfect choice for us and for our daughter Alexis.

Q7. What's been your favourite memory so far on your parenting journey?
Although I haven't been a parent for the longest amount of time, my favourite memory so far was when I saw my little girl smile for the first time. She hasn't quite learned how to properly interact, smile or laugh yet but, the other day I was talking to her and she was so intensely looking back at me. You could tell that she was taking it all in and then without me expecting it, she cracked the most genuine and beautiful smile ever! Now that will always be one of my favourite memories!

Q8. How do you feel you've changed since becoming a parent?
I can't deny the fact I was a lot more selfish before becoming a parent, but then again, I only had me to think about. Now, she is and always will be my main priority. Alexis's needs come first before mine each and every day for the next 18 years (I imagine possibly even longer if she's anything like me lol, hi mum). The number of cold dinners I have eaten and cold cuppa teas I have drunk all because Alexis required me first. One of the many joys of parenthood!

Q9. What's been your proudest motherhood moment?
My proudest moment continues and repeats itself on average every three hours of every day. I could not be any prouder than when I hear my tiny little bubba bring up the loudest of burps after her bottle. Call me a weirdo but until you're a mother you won't understand the joy it brings to hear them get that wind up. I don't care if it comes out the top end or even the bottom. From the words of Shrek himself, better out than in! So, when my girl burps it brings me nothing but proudness and I can't wait to hear it again!


Q10. Looking to the future, what are you most excited for your little one to experience?
Everything! I simply cannot wait to experience each and every stage. I have decided to take it all in my stride and join her on this magical yet tiring journey. I understand that some stages in their educational journey are harder than others (aka; when she can run and I can no longer sit down for more than 10 seconds) but I'm ready to handle it all! I can't wait to see her learn and grow into the wonderful lady I know she will be. Now, how exciting does all that sound!

Ashleigh's Blog: www.thestoryofashleighdavis.com
Ashleigh's Instagram: @thestoryofash6
Ashleigh's Twitter: @thestoryofash6
Ashleigh's Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/ashleighdavis6

If you're wanting to get involved please feel free to DM me @__ClaireMac or send me an email to clairemacblog@gmail.com as I'd love for you to join the 'Mama's in Question' party bus.

You can answer whatever you feel comfortable answering, all I ask is that it's honest! I wan't to show others how flipping hard this parenting lark is!... Because I don't think we give ourselves enough credit for it! And we should! I'll of course be sharing the ish out of your social medias & blogs etc, so let's let loose, connect with one another and raise a glass to all those mamas just getting by!

Claire.X

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