Sunday, 21 September 2014

Lifestyle: Things I Wish I'd Known In My Teens

I went out for Cocktails last night with a few friends yesterday as it was our last little 'get together' before me and Dan move down to Leeds, so it was kind of a farewell bon voyage, au revoir type event. Strangely it was a super reflective night, because we've all been friends since Primary School we were looking back on past times - The good, the bad & the god damn ugly! I don't know whether it's because we're all 'half way to thirty' that these conversations came up, maybe it's a thing with getting older but it's nice to appreciate all the things you've done & how far you've come.
Looking back there are quite a few things I wish I'd known then that I know now, but they say 'everything happens for a reason' don't they. I wouldn't be the person that I am today without making mistakes (and oh boy I made some!) But what's quite worrying for me is I have a niece who is coming up to being a teenager, it's such a testing age at the best of times, but I think in this materialistic day & age it's even tougher.


So here it goes, here's a few things I wish I'd known when I was younger. I don't want it to come across as a rant, I'm just jotting my thoughts down & I hope you can take something from it.

1. It's Okay Not To Fit In With The Popular Kids.
What's so special about them? That's what I needed to ask myself. I was never a popular kid at school, like I said I've had the same friends since Primary School & none of us were never particularly popular - We were normal! What was surprising & pretty crap really, is when I discovered straighteners & make up at 15 (late developer I know) the popular kids started approaching me asking me to hang out with them, even go out on dates with a few of the boys. Sack that! You weren't my friend when I was a 'plain Jane' I'm certainly not gonna be your friend now I fit in with your rules & regulations. You don't need to doll yourself to fit in with people, you're beautiful just the way you are!

2. Speak Up.
If I've learnt anything over the past few years it's to be confident, speak your mind & if i's not the same opinion as everybody else, well that's okay! Literally every single school report I took home said 'Claire is a quiet but hardworking member of the team' I knew it was coming every time, I was painfully shy at school - It started off in Primary School, I was pretty nerdy back then and would always win Merits for the year & on each occasion I had to drag my sorry ass to the front of the stage only to be greeted by the Headmaster saying 'Ahh bet she's not going to say anything' to which I of course thanked him for my award only again for him to joke that I actually spoke, there actually is a voice inside that little girl. I'm pretty sure this is where my shyness stemmed from, it was really frustrating & I just wanted to tell him to change the effing record! It's only upon entering adulthood that I've gained confidence, working has helped a lot with my self esteem & learning that I should say exactly what's on my mind.

3. Designer Don't Really Mean Anything.
At around 15/16 I discovered shopping! And I mean shopping on my own, not having Mum or Dad around & not being dragged round their shops. In school I had one friend who wore a lot of designer clothes, everything had labels & the labels were always so clearly visible. She had the money to do that though so fair play to her, if that's what she wants to do then that's fine. But it's also fine to not wear designer clothes! Now as a 24 year old woman I own two designer handbags & a designer dress that I never wear. Stupid right? I don't want to spend £70 on a vest just because it says FCUK in big bold letter across the front, I'll probably only spill my tea down it later on!

4. It's Okay Not To Be Liked By Everyone.
It's quite difficult being a teenage girl, going to school every day is basically like one big popularity contest. I was quite heavily bullied towards the end of my School experience. During the last year at school I lived my life as a lesbian (news to me) & even now I don't know where this came from, but I got picked on for this & I tell you something, kids are bloody mean! Looking back I can rise above it and it's quite funny - Not haha funny, but funny that these people spent so much time out of their busy busy days spreading rumours about me. Anyway what I'm trying to say is that not everyone liked me & I turned out completely fine (and straight! Ha) Kids are mean! And the only reason they dislike you is because they're jealous. Jealousy is an ugly, ugly thing!

5. It's What's Inside That Counts.
Duhh! Well this one I feel is pretty self explanatory. There's a huge pressure on young girls these days with magazines/modern culture saying you have to be stick thin with super long luscious blonde barbie hair & huge blue bug eyes covered in layers upon layers of fake eyelashes. Well lets be honest who looks like this? Who can be arsed to look like this? No one & even if there was I bet she'd look bloody awful! I remember my niece a few years ago complaining that she was too fat & too pale, which was a complete shock to my system! Kids shouldn't be thinking like this, it's disgusting & it frustrates me to no end! If you're beautiful on the inside then it' shines through to the outside!

Do you agree with any of my pointers today, there's a couple more that I've got in mind I just didn't want the post to get ranty.

Thanks for taking a look. Lots of love.
Claireabella.x



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6 comments

  1. I definitely agree with all of these, I guess everyone is a little more superficial as a teen because you've only really developed this self concept and image.

    You'll have so much fun in Leeds, we have so many nice places to food and shop!

    India / Touchscreens & Beautyqueens

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    1. Thank you! I've been loving it so far! There's always something going on and something to do - Can't wait for the Christmas markets to arrive. X

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  2. Such a touching post hun! Love it!
    Vieve xxx

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  3. Totally agree with all your points. Especially designer doesn't mean anything. Sometimes I feel better wearing unknown brand that look good on me. Great post :)

    Kiss me Sunday // Bloglovin

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    1. Totally agree. It's lovely wearing unknown or up and coming brands - It makes for a more interesting story. X

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